Angelus Blog

I am 28 years old and recently had my traditional marriage three months ago. I am planning to have my church wedding in March 2024. My fiancée lives abroad but will be in Nigeria three weeks before the wedding. However, I am facing a serious problem and need advice. Last year, I impregnated a woman I met at my workplace. She is now two months pregnant. I love my fiancée deeply and would never want to hurt her. The woman who is pregnant does not know that I am already engaged, and my fiancée is unaware that someone else is carrying my child. I am now caught in a difficult dilemma and need guidance on what to do. Both families have finalized all the marriage arrangements, and they already consider each other as in-laws. My fear is that if I tell my fiancée about the pregnancy, she might call off the wedding. At the same time, I worry that the woman who is pregnant will not forgive me if she finds out I am engaged. I feel trapped between two impossible choices—between the devil and the...

A true life story. My husband works as an unskilled laborer in a manufacturing company in Lagos, earning a monthly salary of thirty thousand Naira. I am a petty trader in our community, selling fruits like groundnuts and popcorn, and my monthly income is less than ten thousand Naira. Together, we have two young children—a boy aged four and a girl aged two. Two years ago, we made the difficult decision not to have any more children because our limited income would not allow us to adequately provide for more than two kids. We visited the hospital for family planning, and I have been consistently taking contraceptive pills without any issues. However, a few weeks ago, I missed my period. Curious, I went to the hospital to confirm, and to my surprise, I found out I am pregnant. Given our financial constraints, my husband and I feel we cannot support more than two children. I am torn between the thought of terminating the pregnancy while it is still at an early stage and the moral hesita...