CAUGHT BETWEEN TWO WORLDS: A CONFESSION AND A PLEA FOR GUIDANCE

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I am 28 years old and recently had my traditional marriage three months ago. I am planning to have my church wedding in March 2024. My fiancée lives abroad but will be in Nigeria three weeks before the wedding. However, I am facing a serious problem and need advice. Last year, I impregnated a woman I met at my workplace. She is now two months pregnant. I love my fiancée deeply and would never want to hurt her. The woman who is pregnant does not know that I am already engaged, and my fiancée is unaware that someone else is carrying my child. I am now caught in a difficult dilemma and need guidance on what to do. Both families have finalized all the marriage arrangements, and they already consider each other as in-laws. My fear is that if I tell my fiancée about the pregnancy, she might call off the wedding. At the same time, I worry that the woman who is pregnant will not forgive me if she finds out I am engaged. I feel trapped between two impossible choices—between the devil and the deep blue sea. I acknowledge that my lack of control over my sexual urges led to this situation, and I am deeply troubled by this mistake that I cannot undo. This confession is an open appeal for help. Please help me understand who represents the devil and who represents the deep blue sea in this predicament. Your advice is urgently needed to help me avoid falling into serious depression. Thank you.

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